Children… We all once were children. Freedom, happiness, and peace were part of each day. Nothing troubled us, we simply lived. Do you recall that feeling when you didn’t have to bear any responsibilities because others handled everything? I remember it vividly. Those were wonderful days. I was fortunate to have a supportive family, and my dad often joked with a smile, “I wish when I’m on vacation I would have worry free time like you have now, Zuzi.”
And even today, I sometimes find myself wishing that nothing would ever change, that everything could stay the same forever. It’s like a dream of time travel, just to turn the time back for just a little bit. But life goes on, and everything around us changes, as it naturally should. This change gives us the chance to learn, grow, and adapt to new situations in the best way possible. And if we’re fortunate enough, one day we can pass all we’ve learned on to our children.
What made my childhood carefree was like “the time stood still”, in my children’s eyes. I felt protected from all the sides. Imagine yourself as a candle. The candle symbolizes you—your strength, energy, and the hope that guides you through life. When all is well in the room, the candle’s flame burns brightly. But what happens when one of the walls protecting it fails?
What happens if one or more walls are missing?
If one wall is removed, the flame begins to flicker. And if more walls come down, a draft is created that might extinguish the candle. Similarly, in life, when we neglect something important, our inner light begins to fade. To keep our little flame burning, we need six strong walls, each with its own significance.
„The Six Walls: The Support System That Holds Everything Together“
The First Wall in Front of Us – Perspective and Expectations
This wall represents our ability to have something to look forward to in life. We all need it. Perspective is essential for maintaining our inner energy and motivation. Even if we’re at the end of our career or going through a difficult time, we need something to look forward to —a reason that gives our life meaning. Maybe getting out of town for weekend or family celebration. Small thigs count!
The Second Wall Behind Us – Support and Encouragement from Others
This wall is made up of the people we can lean on—those who we let really close. Family, spouse, and friends—who support us through tough times, keeping our flame steady. Without this support, we feel vulnerable, unable to turn around and find security, no solid wall behind us. Having stable, loving support is crucial for our mental well-being.
The Third Wall to Our Left – Friends and Intimate Relationships
This wall stands closest to our heart. It represents our friends, those to whom we can pour out our hearts and be ourselves. Without these deep relationships, we may feel isolated, even if we have family or a partner. We need friends who listen to us, support us, and bring joy into our lives. This wall is important to maintain alongside our marriage, where we need to keep a „Me“ space for deep friendship connections outside of the role of a partner. This counts especially for women.
The Fourth Wall to Our Right – Colleagues and Work Relationships
This wall symbolizes the relationships we have at work or within society. It’s important to be able to communicate openly and friendly with our colleagues, providing support and receiving one in return. If we have work relationships based on trust, our inner light grows and strengthens. On the flip side, if we feel threatened at work, fearing betrayal or dishonesty, the flame of our life starts to weaken. We all know how it feels loving our job or the opposite.
The Fifth Wall Below Us – Our Solid Ground in Life
This wall represents the ground beneath our feet, keeping us firmly grounded. We must know who we are, what we want, and where we stand in life. Constantly comparing ourselves to others or searching for a better place won’t bring us happiness. Our place is right where we are now, and that is where we must stand firm. Without a solid foundation in our life, we may feel lost and unsure.
The Sixth Wall Above Us – Spiritual Values and Life’s Purpose
This wall is the ceiling that brings and shines light into our lives. It represents our spiritual values—our culture, art, goodness, beauty, truth, hope, faith, and love. Without these values, the flame of our life might one day go out. We need something greater than just the material world—something that gives us meaning and direction, something that inspires and fulfills us.
I believe it’s vital to take time and space to reflect on whether these walls are truly strong. Each of us deserves a life full of light, strength, and inner stability. And I am here to help you find and maintain that balance. Together, we can strengthen each of these walls, so your inner flame never fades.
Whether you’re facing stress at work, relationship struggles, or health challenges, it’s crucial to have a solid plan. If you feel that one of your life’s walls isn’t as strong as it should be, or if you want to approach life differently, you can book a consultation or download my free eBook. I’ll help you create the life you’ve always wished for.
I am a life coach, and I help people turn their dreams and ideas into reality so they can find fulfillment and inner balance in their lives. When you Find Your Direction, you Find Yourself. If you’d like to know more about me, you can read my story.